Today we talk about Self-Worth.
Self-worth is different from Self-esteem. Esteem has to do with our outer performance. It’s based on the things we do, what we accomplish, who we know, or how much success and status we possess. The more we have and do, the more we find the accolades of others. We often feel as though their approval is the pinnacle of success—human approval. The more approval we have the more we are able to esteem ourselves.
And there is some importance in this truth. It’s good and even right to feel good about ourselves and our accomplishments. Yet, many of the most successful people by today’s standards are feel miserable and empty.
Our human attempts to prove and improve our self-worth is an exercise in futility when it comes to true fulfillment. At best, we will end up with a neatly constructed façade, hiding our deep insecurities, or worse, obtain a self-reliant strength that comes from self-love and pride. Our need to realize true worth and significance cannot be met by the world’s measure of what is worthwhile and valuable. If we look to wealth, beauty, appearance, accomplishment and success to prop up our teetering self-image we have only found a temporary fix.
In his book, The Search For Significance, Robert S. McGee 1 identities four specific false beliefs that many of us hold to, hoping to gain self-esteem.
Those beliefs are:
- I must meet certain standards in order to feel good about myself.
- I must be approved (accepted) by certain others to feel good about myself.
- Those who fail are unworthy of love and must be punished.
- I am what I am. I cannot change. I am hopeless.
When I look at that list, I can see how I used to believe in those very things, and still have to make a conscious decision today not to fall prey to the power of those seductions. Satan is a devious seller of bad goods, and he wants us to buy his lies. Maybe like me, you’ve struggled with these same misconceptions.
Well, here’s the good news: Our self-worth is not based on any of those temporal things.
While self-esteem may teeter back and forth on the edge of personal performance, Jesus does not look at any of those things when it comes to his love and acceptance of who we are. That’s because he looks to our inherent worth and intrinsic value. We are made in the image of God—image bearers of the One who is Perfect, Holy, and Wise. We are worth more than all the millions of treasures in this earth.
That’s right, our worth is not based on self at all. Not on how well we do, or how beautiful we are, or how intelligent we are – none of it. Our identity is rooted in God and His love. You’re made in God’s image and that makes you wonderful and significant. This is a fact that cannot be changed. It remains fundamentally irrevocable!
The only thing that remains is the answer to these two questions:
- Do you believe in your worth?
- Will you receive this truth?
If you answered yes to both of these, congratulations! You’re on your way to living the life God has intended for you to live.
If you answered no, I pray that God will open your eyes and reveal to you how amazingly valuable you are! I pray you will take God at His Word and begin to nurture your inner self with these words:
The truest thing about me is….I AM WHO GOD SAYS I AM!
Will you do it?