BLOG

Not Feeling The Thrill

Not Feeling The Thrill

Today while encouraging a young adult (I’ll call him Sam) to achieve some independence—based on the theory that more responsibility would empower him—Sam stiffened his back and exclaimed, “I’m not feeing the thrill!” His retort made me chuckle, and his reluctance—more like dread—to take on new levels of responsibility became clear. But I persisted with […]
Read More

It’s Not Over After It’s Over – Part 2

Sexual abuse is one of the most devastating traumas a person can experience. A survivor’s life is scarred in ways that go beyond our comprehension. Once abuse is over and the survivor is out of danger, she is left with the devastating aftermath abuse. Perhaps you’ve seen it. You’re in a relationship with a woman […]
Read More
  • Amanda
    Thank you. Because of your courage I'm a

It’s Not Over After It’s Over – Part 1

I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I want to tell my story because I’m hopeful that by doing so, others can draw from the insights I’ve gained and find help and comfort in knowing that they’re not alone.  Indeed we’re not alone: One in three girls have encountered sexual abuse. For boys, the generally […]
Read More

Finding the Child Within

I’d heard about the inner child—how important it was to find her, listen to her, and integrate her feelings, memories and pain with mine—but I wasn’t interested. I wasn’t even sure I believed all that nonsense. Yet, whenever I considered the possibility of my “child within,” I felt strong emotions. I despised her. I thought […]
Read More

Shame No More

Someone once said, That definition says it well. As Survivors, we are often filled with feelings of shame and guilt. I prayed for a woman once who couldn’t escape the feelings of shame. She approached me with her head hanging down as she whispered in my ear, “I’m cursed with shame.” She barely found a […]
Read More
Forgiving God, Forgiving Myself  Part Two

Forgiving God, Forgiving Myself Part Two

Our other difficulty in forgiveness is forgiving ourselves. I easily forgave my father, but I was hard as steel on myself. I gave myself no mercy or compassion. Eventually I realized my lack of self-compassion was unforgiveness. I wasn’t letting myself free from my own judgments about me. A child who is abused has committed […]
Read More
Forgiving God, Forgiving Myself Part One

Forgiving God, Forgiving Myself Part One

The two beings we most often forget to forgive after childhood abuse are God and ourselves. But the truth is, we don’t actually forget. We’re typically unaware that we harbor resentment toward ourselves and God. We don’t want to admit we’re resentful. Yet many of us are angry with ourselves and God. Very angry. It […]
Read More

Feeling the Pain Part Two

I didn’t understand the severe impact sexual abuse had on me. For years I wasn’t able to grasp the depth of my pain. I knew something was wrong, yet I rejected the possibility that it was connected to my childhood sexual abuse. I criticized myself and minimized my experience. But I couldn’t move on. More […]
Read More

Feeling the Pain

I denied the thought that I could have further complications from sexual abuse saying, “I’ve dealt with it, and I’m healed. There’s nothing more to talk about.” I was terrified to consider the residue of sexual abuse and how it had harmed me. I’m not alone. Many survivors tend to minimize or dismiss the impact […]
Read More

Clogs

Today the water-softener repairman came to the house. He told me all our filters are clogged. We have an iron build-up, and rust and iron are spitting into the water faucets. No wonder my laundry is so dull; it now makes perfect sense—the pure flow of water is obstructed. As a result, iron-colored water is […]
Read More

I Choose

Something terrible happened to me, to us. I’ve learned it wasn’t my fault. The shame I carried wasn’t mine to bear. Yet, shame and pain shaped my life. But I don’t want to be defined in this life by what has happened to me — rather, I’d like to be defined by what I choose […]
Read More
12

FREE Audio

It’s time to Dream Again

In the Bible, a man named Joseph was given a dream from God. But before his dream could come to pass, he faced ridicule, sabotage, and other nasty "dream thieves." Like Joseph, you may have a dream inside of you from the Lord. In this teaching, you will learn to face the obstacles every dreamer goes through, and how to overcome!

You have Successfully Subscribed!